difficult time getting my point across...

We are all very territorial when it comes to the people we have connections with.
None of us want to let others into our super secret club. some of us take it as far as even when we no longer have someone in our lives we refuse to revisit anything and everything that has to do with them. Not even a restaurant. It didn't have to end on bad terms to bottle up everything that we learned along the way forever.
 The worst thing about this to me ( regardless if i may be guilty of this at times) is that if we don't bottle up and do invite people into the super secret club it is considered rude and awkward and not socially acceptable.
No boyfriend/girlfriend, mother/father inlaw, friend/bestfriend, wants to do anything you did with the person before.
I think it comes with the need to feel special. when you care about someone you want a different kind of love, trust, interaction then they have ever had with anyone else. you want to stamp your name on there heart with a branding iron. you want to be in there memory forever.
witch don't get me wrong i think all of what i said before is important! but.. there are exceptions to this in my book.

 The main ways you grow and learn as a human is through other humans. So why not share what you learn? why keep it all to your self? If someone you used to know used to do something that would always cheer you up no matter how sad you were why not share it with the people that are in your life today?
Im not telling you to force yourself to go to that restaurant, or tell there secrets, and if you need to keep somethings private then thats for you to decide. But i think that humans over the years have taken it way to far. so far that they avoid parts of town and opportunitys to spend time with the people in there life now because they are stuck on the past.
if you decide to try every flavor of something with someone but they are not longer in your life. DONT MISS OUT ON ALL THE FLAVORS.